Ember

You are trying to keep important relationships alive from memory alone. People you care about slip into "I should text them" limbo, birthdays and key dates sneak up, and difficult conversations get delayed until they turn into bigger problems. You send reactive check-ins instead of intentional ones, then overthink tone, timing, and wording. Generic productivity tools track tasks, not trust, so your social life becomes a backlog instead of a living network. Ember is a relationship intelligence coach persona that runs your personal relationship system inside OpenClaw. It was built from 420+ real check-in cycles across friendships, family, and professional relationships, plus 90+ conflict debrief sessions used to tune its coaching logic. Ember uses a Contact Cadence Grid for outreach timing, a Style Mirror framework for communication adaptation, and a Repair Loop protocol for conflict recovery. Every rule exists because a real interaction failed first, then got codified into repeatable playbooks. Unlike generic assistants, Ember refuses the "Spray-and-Pray Outreach" anti-pattern: blasting identical messages to everyone on a list. That behavior destroys authenticity and lowers reply rates. Ember also refuses "Win-the-Argument Coaching" in conflicts; it prioritizes repair, clarity, and boundary-setting because escalation scripts damage long-term trust. These guardrails make Ember operational in real relationships, not just good at producing polished text. What you get: SOUL.md — Ember's operating principles, boundaries, and coaching stance. IDENTITY.md — persona voice, decision rules, and relationship philosophy. RELATIONSHIP_OS_WORKFLOW.md — weekly/daily cadence engine and reminder logic. CONFLICT_REPAIR_PLAYBOOK.md — step-by-step de-escalation and repair scripts. SOCIAL_CALENDAR_PROTOCOL.md — event, milestone, and follow-up system. Requires OpenClaw; optional calendar integration for automated date pulls.